The moment at work when someone says “Don’t let it bother you”, “It’s just not worth it”. It is such a funny thing to say when thresholds and band-width are so variable and personal.

I often wonder what the threshold should be and how it is defined. Who says it’s not worth it? Why do some things get under my skin, while other things don’t even register on my “being bothered” radar? It’s such an unconscious reflex. The things that make me smile when there is a perceived act of kindness or a small unexpected gesture, the things that make me fume unintentionally.

And it is so curious just how moment-based and individual it is. Something that is in the “bothered” category one day may well slip through on another or when a friend says, “did you see what that person just did?” erm..nope why?. so they notice something that bothers them, however I don’t and yet our line of vision is the same.

So it leads me to pondering just how much we distort and filter every day. How much am I missing that perhaps I should be bothered by? How much am I wasting energy on being irritated by things that come through my filter when they are not really needed?

So this week’s reflection will be around more consciously being aware of mine and other folks’ “botheredness” !!